How to Balance Your Love Life and Career
Your love life and career can be equally exciting, so how do you balance them when opportunities are calling your name each way? This is such an important thing to figure out for your overall well-being. You'll be so much happier with your life once you've learned how to find the balance you're looking for. While you might not be able to have it all, you can have what you want when it comes to your love life and career. So many movies portray this as an 'either-or' situation. You can have the successful career or the love of your life. But who has both? Women pretty much have terrible love lives in every movie regardless of their success. The point is, these stereotypes are bringing us down. By taking the time to go through strategic steps, we can effectively balance our love life and career. Read on to find out how and give yourself time to think about what's right for you.
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1. Ponder Your Priorities
First things first, and you've got to take me seriously on this one, what does a balanced love life and career look like? If you haven't thought about this, you won't ever get to your ideal lifestyle.
Ask yourself questions like: How much time do I want to spend with my significant other each week? When is it okay to go overtime with work? What things do I want to do with my partner each day or each week? How much time do I need to be spending on work to achieve my goals? How can I arrange my time so I can grow in my career and my relationship?
This is the foundation of a balanced love life and career. You have to set your standards and make decisions that will allow you to have that kind of life. I decided I wanted to be off work when my husband was, I didn't want to work on weekends, but I wanted to run my own business from home and hit my income goals. This means turning down certain clients who need 24/7 service. I make it clear with my clients when I will work with them by setting office hours. Then, I make sure the time I spend with my partner is quality time.
2. Talk with Your Support System
Once you know what you want your balanced life to look like, you need to make sure you and your partner are on the same page. You're already coping with constructive criticism and anxiety-inducing initiatives at work, you don't need your support system failing you at home.
Make it clear what support you need from your partner. Tell them what you're excited about doing in your career and what lights you up about your work. Then tell them what you are committed to doing at home to cultivate a fulfilling love life.
This may be a turning point in your relationship. You'll be able to see if your priorities and your partner's priorities match up. But if you find you're both not satisfied, move on to the next step.
3. Be Creative
Sometimes you can get into a hard place where your love life and career are both demanding things from you and you have to sacrifice one for the other. The thing is, it doesn't have to be black and white. You want to be irreplaceable at the office,, but your relationship at home is also important!
Tune into those creative juices and think about alternative solutions. If your work is demanding more time from you and you know that you need to go with that to make the most of your career, work with your spouse to set a time frame of how long you'll be working longer hours or traveling often. Talk about how you can make the most of the time you do spend together. Could you do something to keep in touch during the day and strengthen your connection with funny GIF conversations? Or could you take a class together in your free time to learn something together that you can look forward to?
You might also have to tell your boss, this doesn't really work for me, but I could do this instead. Understand the needs of your partner, boss, and yourself to creatively find a way for them to all work together.
4. Stick to Your Boundaries
And yes, sometimes you'll have to choose. If being creative doesn't win over your work or significant other, you'll have to sacrifice one for the other. Just remember that one decision does not determine the rest of your life. You can bounce back from anything.
Sometimes when you make a bad decision and lose an opportunity at work or with a partner because of that, it was a lesson you needed and it will help you when you need to make that decision again.
Remember those priorities that you set and stick with what's most important to you.