How to Beat Career Rejection and Rise Even Stronger
Career rejection is a very unfortunate reality of going after your biggest goals. But what you do after facing a rejection is often what determines your ultimate success. Do you give up or rise even stronger?
For the #goaldigger taking the next step towards her dreams, these tips for beating career rejection are essential to coming back better than before.
Don’t Take it Personally
The first thing we think after being rejected is how bad it feels. This is where a lot of us get stuck. We spend so much time ruminating on the unfairness, the shame, the end of our dreams that we don’t take the next step needed to actually beat career rejection.
We don’t always get our way in life, so we need to develop a coping mechanism for when that happens, particularly one that will have us moving forward instead of staying stuck. For some, it helps to remember that a rejection is only someone else’s opinion. It says nothing about your own self-worth or merit. Dita Von Teese describes it like this, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” People can reject you, but that says more about them than it does about you.
Others find Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule more helpful. Whenever you find yourself in a circle of self-criticism, count back from 5 and commit to changing your thoughts to something more productive.
Action Step: Test out different strategies to stop self-doubt and discover what works best for you.
Find the Learning Opportunity
Have you ever heard the idea that we encounter the same problem in different forms until we finally learn our lesson? It might have merit, especially when it comes to your career. In order to stop making the same mistakes or misunderstandings, you need to learn your lesson.
After being rejected, sometimes the last thing you want to do is analyze your work and figure out where you went wrong, but if you want to beat career rejection and come out stronger, this is a crucial step.
How do you figure out where you went wrong? You need feedback. Suck up your pride and ask. All it takes is a polite, “Thank you for your feedback. It’s important to me to evolve and improve. How could I do better?”
Action: Think about who you can get feedback from, take the time to ask for it, and implement valuable insight into your next attempt.
Discover Another Route
Picture this: you’re on your way to a target shopping spree and the route you normally take is under construction. What do you do? Give up on your shopping cart full of sunshine or simply find another route? Career rejection is just like a roadblock. You have to decide what you’re going to do next. And aren’t your dreams even better than a target shopping spree?
Every successful person ever has beat career rejection. How? They found another way to their dreams. The formula is that simple. Take Cathy Heller of the Don’t Keep Your Day Job podcast as an example. She wanted to be a songwriter, but her record label dropped her. After trying to get a ‘normal’ job in real estate, she eventually found her way to writing songs for commercials and movies, skyrocketing her income past six figures!
A key part of finding another route to your goals is really getting creative and seeing paths that you would never have thought of before.
Action: Brainstorm five other ways you could go to reach your goals.
Create a Safety Net
With worst case scenarios like ending up on the street running through your mind, it can seem impossible to beat career rejection. Instead of giving up quite yet, you can silence these fears by creating a safety net.
In between pursuing your dreams, find something you can do to support yourself. When your bank account reaches $2, it’s not necessarily time to give up. All this means is you need a safety net in the meantime.
Use a part-time job or side-hustle to support yourself while you still work toward your goals. The key is not to get stuck here. Your safety net is only a step on the path to success. But while you’re figuring out your next career move, it’s a stable place to be.
Action: Determine what you need as a safety net to support yourself while you continue to chase your dreams.